About Me

About this blog

First of all, I feel like I need to explain the title. I’m not actually claiming to be “good”—but rather stating that from the outside, I look like a good girl. I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, sleep with people; I go to church, volunteer in AWANA. The “confessions” part has to do with the fact that just because I may look like I’ve got it all together in terms of the Christian life, I don’t. I’m still learning, making mistakes, making discoveries—basically realizing that being a “good girl” is both a lot harder and so much simpler than most people think. So my confessions are the things I’ve been learning, the things I struggle with, the things that I wish someone had told me as I transitioned from being a Christian teen to a young adult.

I’ve been frustrated by most of the Christian living books for teenagers/young adults. I feel like they hold up a model Christian girl, but don’t necessarily talk about what it’s really like to live as a Christian, in this world. As I finished school and entered the working world, I kept discovering things for myself about the Christian life and about being an adult and saying to myself, “No one told me this.” And it’s not that my parents sheltered me—I wasn’t shocked by what the world had to offer, but by what the Christian culture hadn’t seemed to acknowledge.

As I observed the people around me, I realized that, even though I was a “good girl,” the term wasn’t nearly as constrictive as I thought. I also began to see girls like me, “good girls,” who were attractive, exciting… sexy (excitingly appealing; glamourous. [dictionary.com])

This blog started out as an idea for a book, tentatively titled “The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexy.” Obviously, the title needed work, but the thought behind it was that the two terms, “good girl,” and “sexy,” (meaning attractive, appealing, exciting) didn’t have to be mutually exclusive—that a good girl didn’t have to be boring, and  sexy (or attractive or appealing) didn’t rule out being good.

 So, here’s my thesis.

Being an attractive, sexy, appealing… however you want to put it… young woman isn’t just a matter of how you dress or look. I’ve seen plenty of young women capable of turning heads without traditional beauty or fashion sense. But it’s also not just a matter of your attitude or spiritual life. Again, there’s plenty of young women who are godly, genuine, wonderful girls who sort of fade into the woodwork. Instead, it’s everything—spiritual life, daily life, attitude, relationships, and appearance.

So to navigate this blog, each post will have one of six tags:

            Spiritual life

            Daily life

            Attitude

            Relationships

            Guys (or relationships with the opposite sex—complicated enough to have its own tag)

            Appearance

Now here’s a disclaimer.

I don’t claim to be this sort of young woman. I hope I am, but most of the time I don’t think so . You know how they say, “Those who can’t do, teach”? Well, just because I’m not something doesn’t mean I can’t observe and comment on it.  Also, just because I write about something I’ve learned does NOT mean I’ve mastered it. I may know something, but implementing it is an entirely different matter.

About me

Well, this blog is starting out anonymous. Mostly because I’m afraid that this will turn into an egotistical soapbox for me, so an extra degree of separation is probably a good thing. Also, this way, anyone reading this who knows me in real life, hopefully can’t find me to yell at me if they disagree!  Or can just pretend they don’t know it’s me.

But here’s a little about me, so you can understand my perspective. I am (as of Feb. 2014) 24 years old. I was homeschooled K-12, an only child, and became a Baptist pastor’s daughter when I was 16. After being convinced I wasn’t going to college because I had no idea what I wanted to do, I signed up at the last minute at my local community college for Hotel and Resort Management.  I graduated with an associate’ s degree in 2010, and for the past three years have been working as a pantry chef at small resort in the Fingerlakes region of New York. If you’re not lucky enough to live here, you have my sympathy.

As far as my faith is concerned, I’ve been saved since I was very young. You know how sometimes you get saved so young you really don’t remember ever not being saved? That’s me.  I love my KJV, but I won’t argue with you about your translation as long as you treat it as the perfect word of God. Like I said, I’m a pastor’s daughter, but I came into the position rather late in life, so hopefully I’ve escaped the stereotypes. My parents were wonderful in that they encouraged me to not just take their word for what Christianity was all about, but to discover it for myself.  And I think I have… it’s definitely an integral part of my life, even when I don’t want it to be. It’s difficult for me to talk about my faith in abstract, so I think I’ll just let you get to know it through my posts.

I really don’t like writing bio’s… what else do you need to know about me? Hmm… I’m an avid bookworm, but I like brain candy (mysteries, fantasy, good stories that don’t require too much thinking).  I’m definitely a nerd, but hopefully never a fangirl.  I love color and don’t believe in matching socks (besides, who ever said that matching means identical?!) Also, I’m chronically single, and really have never even imagined myself to be in love (but I’d like to be…)